A Montessori Approach to Positive Discipline

Montessori approach to discipline

I am passionate about the importance of positive discipline in raising children. Discipline is an essential part of life, but there are many different ways to achieve it. In this article, we’ll explore some of these Montessori methods and how they can help you become a better parent.

What is Montessori education?

Montessori education is a highly successful method of education. The Montessori method was developed by Maria Montessori, an Italian physician and educator who believed that children should be treated as individuals. It’s not just about teaching math, reading, and writing. It’s also about becoming self-sufficient and independent from an early age.

Positive Parenting

Positive parenting is about teaching your children how to be independent. It’s not about punishing a child for making mistakes or seeking out the flaws in their character, but rather encouraging them to learn from their own mistakes. Positive discipline teaches children to take responsibility for themselves and their actions: what they do wrong and right.

The hallmark of maturity is understanding cause and effect on a personal level—when we make good choices that help us grow up, we feel proud; when we make bad choices that hurt others around us or ourselves, we feel ashamed and disappointed in ourselves. 

Positive parenting helps children develop this sense of accountability by giving them opportunities to make decisions on their own without being told exactly what to do every step of the way; it also encourages parents who practice positive discipline not only to allow but encourage independence even if it means letting go of some control over their child’s daily activities or routines (with appropriate limits).

Let them experience success

At the core of the approach we stick to at Start Smart Montessori Center is a belief that children learn best when they feel successful. Children will want to try new things if they have succeeded in their previous attempts at this activity. Therefore, as you are working with your child in a lesson, they must experience success.

Positive discipline aims to teach children how to solve problems independently rather than relying on adults for solutions. As such, the best way for parents and teachers to encourage independence is by providing positive reinforcement when appropriate behavior occurs or when kids try something new (whether or not it works).

Don’t let your child watch television until they have done an hour of household chores 

Having your child do chores is a great way to teach them responsibility, but they must learn the proper way to do these tasks. They also need to learn how to clean up after themselves and help others. 

When teaching them how to do laundry, have them practice folding their clothes first before moving on to other people’s laundry. This helps teach them the importance of respecting other people’s things and valuing every item as if it were theirs.

For dishes and cooking, I find that letting my kids see me cook while they help out goes a long way in teaching responsibility without me having to spend all afternoon reminding them what needs to be done next (which can be especially helpful when preparing food for dinner). 

While I’m making dinner, for example, I’ll ask my son if he wants anything on his plate tonight—and then explain why those items go together well when eaten together (or even just why certain foods should never be served together). Then, later on, when we sat at the table together as a family, we talked about how everyone enjoyed their meal and what everyone was thankful for that day!

You can’t discipline a child who is not listening

It’s important to understand the child is not listening. They are not ignoring you or being a brat. They are focusing on something else. When this happens, it is important to see it as an opportunity to show them that their behavior matters and will have consequences. 

When a child is not paying attention, it is up to us as parents/educators/caregivers to help them refocus on our words and their choices by providing positive reinforcement such as praise or rewards when appropriate.

Don’t scream at your children for being late

Don’t punish your children for oversleeping. Instead, take a moment to teach them how to handle oversleeping.

When your child wakes up late, you might scream at them and make them leave bed immediately. But if you do this, they’ll feel bad and be even more likely to act out. Instead of yelling at your children on the way to school (which only makes everyone late), take some time during breakfast or after school and talk with them about their oversleeping schedule—how much sleep they need each night, how many hours of homework they need each day (and which activities will help them get done on time). 

You can also ask what strategies have worked for other kids who have had problems with waking up on time early in life; maybe there’s something from their experience that will help guide yours!

If you punish your children, you teach them that violence is OK 

If you punish your children, you teach them that violence is OK under certain circumstances. You teach them that it’s acceptable to use force against others when they don’t get their way. You also teach them that violence is an effective way to solve problems and achieve goals. 

This kind of thinking, which we call “lack of remorse” or “inability to own mistakes,” can lead to serious mental health issues later in life—like depression or anxiety disorders.

Positive discipline prevents bullying 

The idea is that children who are disciplined and taught to respect others are more likely to be considerate of others and better able to control their emotions. Positive discipline prevents bullying by teaching kids these important life skills.

If you think about it, this makes perfect sense: if a child knows how to treat themselves kindly, they’re more likely to treat others the same way—and vice versa! Discipline teaches kids how to handle anger and frustration; it helps them build emotional self-control, which they can later apply in new situations with peers or family members.

There is no shortcut to achieving self-discipline

Montessori psychology teaches that self-discipline is a skill that children must learn. It is not something innate but rather developed through repetition and practice. Discipline does not come naturally from birth but takes time and effort to develop. 

A Montessori parent must understand this to successfully guide their child towards self-discipline without relying on external factors such as punishment or rewards (tangible or intangible).

The first step in teaching a child self-discipline is teaching them responsibility for their actions. When a child makes a mistake or breaks something, they should take ownership of it by apologizing instead of blaming others for their mistakes. If the parents allow the child freedom within reason, they will learn how far they can push limits before taking responsibility for their actions and any consequences those actions incur.

When teaching kids about responsibility, it’s also important to talk about what happened after an event and before. Hence, they understand why certain things happened at all times rather than just when there was trouble afterward, which can lead some kids to think, “If I had done this right, then maybe everything would’ve been okay!”


In conclusion, there are no shortcuts to achieving self-discipline. It is a skill that anyone can learn and practice. The most important thing to remember is that you should never use violence when disciplining your child.